Relationships and the Army

Dan and I have been together 4 years. These have been both the best and most difficult of my life!

We met and fell in love ridiculously quickly. A very 'too good to be true' beginning to the relationship. Dan is my first and only love. I remember being told that I shouldn't be waiting for looks and the personality, that they just don't exist in a package. Dan is very pleased about the fact I believe I have found that, it was quite fun proving that person wrong!

He's in the Army and has been since I met him. I have a very love/hate relationship with the army. Dan loves his job and I love that he's living his dream career. Distance isn't the downside, its the not being able to plan. I like knowing what's happening and when. I like being able to set exact dates. I don't like being told one thing and then it having to change a week later. This valentines, Dan and I had a weekend planned. The 13th February is when we had our first date, and first met, so it means more to us than cupid! Two days before, something had changed at work and Dan was no longer able to come down. For someone that hates change, these are the things that really get to me...and obviously Dan gets the fall out with me being both angry and upset! In my job, annual leave is a 'book it at the beginning of the year or loose it' situation, where as Dan's is 'yeah take next week off'. Not ideal.

At the beginning of 2020, we're planning for me to move to where he is based. 4 hours away from my family and friends. I'm okay with this in most ways. Moving towards the north helps us get on the property ladder as you can get so much more for your money, it also helps us get our lives moving. Dan's planning at least about 3 years in the army, we can't wait for him to leave to do all the things we want to do! However, I'm a home bod. I've never lived anywhere else but my home now. I hate change. I have to get a new job, make new friends. That is daunting to say the least.

Everyone is really supportive about this, with friends already saying they will do the drive to come visit and Dan and I agreeing on weekends spent at my home. However, there is no doubt I'll be crying the whole four hours to my house!

Right at the beginning, when 2 weeks apart was a long time!